Unfortunately, some friendships just aren’t meant to last forever. Sometimes the inevitable has to happen, and you feel as though you have to break up with that friend – for the sake of both of you.
Perhaps you simply don’t have anything in common with them anymore, or maybe they have become toxic to be around because you don’t like some of their bad habits. Or perhaps in a worst case scenario, there has been a serious case of trust and loyalty breaking down. If this sounds like you, maybe it’s time to bite the bullet.
It’s never going to be an easy thing to do, so here’s our best advice on what may be the best way for you to break it to them.
Assess its value
If you are already thinking about whether it’s right for you to end the friendship, then the chances are it probably is. It is important that you take the time to assess the friendship you have and weigh up the pros and cons of having them in your life. Are they bringing more negativity to your life than positivity? Perhaps you need to address the problem directly, and the best way for you to do that is to think about the situation calmly, rationally and maturely.
If you feel as though the negative feelings you are having are just one-sided, be considerate of how this may hurt them. Losing a friend is painful, especially if the feelings are not mutual. If there are reasons as to why you need to part ways, explain them fully, and help them understand why this may be. There are no positives to ending a friendship in a hostile way, so be kind, fair, and sensitive to how they might perceive the bond you have too.
Let it be
Sometimes, the best way for you to go is to let it be. Allow the friendship to fizzle out. If you think it may be best to avoid the confrontation, then consider allowing you both to grow apart naturally. Sometimes nothing can be done or said to fix it, so letting it run its course without any bitterness could be the right thing to do. Forcing something that you no longer feel is right anymore is only going to cause more hurt in the long run.
It’s important that you listen to their side of the story too. There may be things that they have to say which could surprise you. A friendship is a two-way street, so be responsible. Talking everything out and leaving the friendship with no hard feelings is the best way for you to get the closure you both need. So be thoughtful, reasonable and obliging to their needs too.
Look to the future
If you have made the decision that the friendship is simply not right for you anymore, then you should know that it’s totally okay for you to feel this way! Life is too short for you to spend valuable time with negative people who only bring harmful feelings, emotions, and behaviors to the table. The most important person in your life is yourself, and the concerns of others should never take priority to the detriment of your well-being. Having a healthy social network is important, so don’t let anyone or anything interfere with your future.
Breaking up with a friend is tricky, so make sure you are confident that the decision is the right one to make. Life takes us all on different pathways, and sometimes it is a natural progression for us to let go of each other’s hands and part ways.